Dr john demartini biography of donald

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Morrison Angela Birney Robert B. Categories : births American self-help writers American educators. Tools What links here. Related changes. Special pages. Printable version. Permanent link. Page information. And if you do, you'll be grateful every day. Alex Ferrari I find it really fascinating the concept of the balance, when there's a great evil, a great good comes up or when there's a great good some other VAT, something's always balancing.

You're in your own life, and also on a micro level and on a macro level around the world. And it's really interesting. So then, in many ways, some of the things that are happening in the world today, could be counterbalanced with all the good and I think what you said was interesting, like the Ukraine is going through a lot right now. But they may have never seen the mass of support that I just never seen in my lifetime,.

John Demartini subsides, as one subside some of the other as one it's called the law of artistic escalation, if you want to study that. A lot of artistic escalation eras was discord and cut. And so if you raise up disorder, and Sue order ensues, if you raise up order disorder and says, if a government tries to impose a new rule, a sanction disorder occurs, if all of a sudden disorder occurs, order tries to come.

And then they both rise together. They're both subjective biases and interpretations of reality. But the idea of the good and evil this is another thing that we have. If we look at our amygdala, which is a subcortical area of our brain, it has a nucleus accumbens for pleasure, and it has a striatum and another area for pain. And so these two areas are involved in seeking prey and Predator.

So it's a survival desire center, that's that location. But it's also governed from above from the executive function, which is a medial prefrontal cortex, and it governs and mitigates and calms down and dampens the volatilities of that reactor. And most people are caught in reaction and believe it or not, this is going to shock people but morality comes from that reactionary center, not the executive center.

Morality isn't a is a subjective bias interpretation of our existence. We label something good only when we don't see the downsides. We label something bad only when we don't see the upsides. And one person's Heaven is another person's hell, as John Milton said. But the fact is that it's neither. It's neither. Until somebody with a narrowed mine labels at touch.

I was involved in in mediating a conflict between five Israeli leaders and three Palestinian leaders. And I had the first moment I walked in there, the one of the Israeli leaders put their hand up and said, Dr. Demartini, I have a question for you before we begin this, so do you believe in absolute evil, and I said, No? Well, I do. And I said, Is it possible?

That's why for 14 years, you've been trying to mediate something and got nowhere. Because what you're considering evil, you're trying to change. You're trying to get somebody else to live in your values. And if you do, you will get nowhere. They calm down for a second. And I then turned him I said, What do you call absolute evil, and they sit in tolerance.

Now, it was very obvious that they were being intolerant at the time, but they were blind to their own reality. And we only judge other people when they remind us of parts of ourselves we haven't loved and have an integrated didn't own in our lives. And that's as old as we can trace in history that's been known. So I said, So you're saying intolerance?

Is it? Okay, great. I said, now go to a moment when you've been intolerant your life. I've never been tolerant. I pride myself. I've never been intolerant. I'm very tolerant. Everybody I know, knows I'm intolerant. I would never be intolerant. I'm always tolerant. And I said, Well, that's interesting, because I look at my life. And I have all sides.

I have moments of tolerance and moments of intolerance. Let me give you some of my intolerances. I've been intolerance at airports have an intolerance and read in hotels, I've been intolerance with food and restaurant intolerance with salespeople. Ben Thompson, my girlfriend, my kids, my dad, and I listed about 50, intolerances, bam, to broaden her perspective of where her intolerances were.

And then she goes, Oh, she said, Okay. And I said, Now let's go to a moment when you've been intolerant. She started listing it go the next moment, listed it. And I made her do 39 examples of intolerance until she humbled herself, had a tear come out of her eye, and realize, hmm, I have that behavior, too. And I say, explain that you did that.

Dr john demartini biography of donald

Because you believe that that was the greatest advantage of a disadvantage in the moment you acted that way? She goes, I did. I said, so what you thought was something was wise to do was labeled intolerant by somebody else. She goes, that's true. I said, Do you own that trait that you've been judging in this person? I said, now go to a moment when you actually perceive this individual being intolerant.

Now, in that moment, how did that serve you? It didn't? How can it do that? I went, wait a minute now your intolerance and serving people? How did this intolerance of this individual serve you? I can't see it. I don't know when somebody says I don't know I can't and I'm not. That means that it's low in their values to do it, their pride is going to be altered.

If you confront that. I said, go look, again, I held her accountable, look for the benefits. And then we came to this realization that this very person that was intolerance is what initiated her career path of being a leader. It made her write a book, it made her have a following it made her have infants, and she was a housewife before that. And she became a world leader, a female world leader in the in the industry.

I said to your saying that this person that's absolute evil, that's been intolerant is not a gift if that because you're what you're saying, as you catalyze all the things you've done, is everything you've done part of that evil, or is it actually contributed? She's what's contributed to what then it came out of that experience that you call was evil.

She went, huh? I said, Did you ever thank them for all the accomplishment or give them a cut out of the royalty for stimulating this drive? She goes, I didn't. And I made her think of the benefits and we calculated 32 benefits until tears came out of her eyes. When she did her makeup was messed up. She sat there and she goes, Huh. Now she had there's a there's a Palestinian Israeli leaders in the room.

And she said I need to take a break. And we gave everybody a little potty break. And all of a sudden that guy that she was judging was in the room came up to me and said, Wow, my anger towards these people have just shifted from this conversation. I could have swore she was talking about me. And I said she was talking about you. You were the one that catalyzed her career.

He says, I'm gonna have to go and revamp this. Anyway, we got them conversing, we got them in mediation, we got them conversing. And she went on the radio and changed her attitude. Cuz I told her, I said, are you really committed to mediating and revisit resolving conflict? Are you interested in being right and perpetuating this as you've been doing for 14 years.

Because if you're just doing it for your own pride, to get a center of attention, be honest with yourself, if you really want to meet that in that position of righteousness is not going to get you anywhere. And it calmed down that day. And she went on the radio show when I came back to meet with her the next time, she had me interviewed on a radio show.

And she told me the entire story, how she humbled herself, and now made progress. Because as long as she was right, she wasn't love. And that's an inauthentic turned into authentic and when you get authentic life transforms. Alex Ferrari As a very powerful story and and as you were talking, I remind myself of all the quote unquote bad things or evil things or negative things that happened to my in my life.

And when you start looking back, if it wasn't for those bad things, if it wasn't for those things that I perceived were the end of the world for me at that moment. I look back and going What a blessing that was because that spawned me to do this. I sit here right now speaking to you and with this show and multiple other podcasts that I run, because I come from a place of trying to help people avoid pitfalls in life to try to help them on their path to help guide them because when I was in the darkest time of my life, I didn't truly have anyone to help me.

And only my me going through that the darkest worst time in my life did that spawn this wanting to help other people so, so vividly. And now I thank that person in that situation. And I honor it because it truly is made me who I am. The while I was going through it, it was held for about a year. But after that time, I was able to now look back 18 years now to 19 years from from what had happened.

And thank that situation for who I am today and the work that I'm doing. And that's hard to see when you're in the book, you need to pull back from the book to be able to see what's going on. John Demartini Well, the hell that we call hell is just in complete awareness. And it is an exact event needed to break our addiction to a fantasy of that we are so we can come into our authenticity, our addiction to fantasies that what read our Hell's I always say that the more you're addicted to protection, the more you attract aggression.

The more you're addicted to peace, the more you attract violence, the more you're addicted to one side, the more you attract the other side, to teach you to embrace both sides of life, you need the sympathetic comparison thing. You need the prey and Predator if you had nothing but prey without predator you'd be gluttonous and fat and not fit.

If you had nothing but predator without prey it'd be emaciated, starved and not fit. But you put prey and Predator together supporter and challenge of their the peace in the world together, you get fit, maximum life, maximum order, maximum growth and development occurs at the border of the support and the challenge the pairs of opposites.

And every perception, every perception that we ever make, versus a pair of opposites. And it's in that moment of perception that the conscious and unconscious split with subjective biases and we label things impulsively or instinctively to seek and avoid, and the world runs as extrinsically. But the moment we ask the right question to become fully conscious in that moment, and see both sides, we become poised and present back into authenticity.

Otherwise, we're going to be seeking it and subordinating or avoiding it, and subordinating, instead of being just ordinate. And when we see the order, we're ordinate. We have equanimity within US equity between others and we have the most sustainable, we have less noise in the brain for great clarity of consciousness, we have a yearning to contribute, our business becomes more stable, our economics become more greater self worth, our relationships are more stable, our social contribution is more stable, our physical fitness is more stable.

We have resilience, adaptability, heart rate variability, it's it goes up. And we're inspired. So everything in the world I think, is trying to guide us back to that even the things we think are hellacious. They're not. They're just we've been holding on to our fantasy, we need a good jolt to break our addiction to the fantasies. Alex Ferrari It's a great example of what we're talking about.

And I think everyone listening will understand. There was a movie many years ago, I think, is 78 or 76, called JAWS, and jaws came out, and all of a sudden, sharks were evil. They are monsters that need to be eradicated from the planet. And unfortunately, that is what's been happening over the course of the last 40 or 50 years that people look at a shark and is oh my god, they need to be wiped out.

But without sharks, the ocean would be completely unbalanced. That predator lets the prey go crazy. It happened in Yellowstone. When the wolves were gone. That out of Yellowstone, the deer population exploded. And then plants started to die off because there was too many deers eating the plants. But the second that wolves were brought back in thing I was I was watching that.

So it's just, again, wolves, another character in story that is our pure evil. But I think it's just a good example to show what we label as bad is really has a purpose in the balance of the world and the balance of ecosystems. And there was a snorkeling moment where we counted Sharks going around us. None of them were interested in eating us.

No, I used to serve for the sharks. Never they never ate anybody. Now there are places in Australia where the warmer water is where they sometimes get caught in a warmer water and people get affected by sharks. Button used to stop and think How many billions, probably the sharks are in the world, in the oceans. And how many casualties from that? It's definitely over already.

Sharks, are they in these sharks that were there were eight to 10 foot, six foot to 10 foot. They were eating small fish. You know, everything had its place in there, we were not its target. If we were bleeding and we were just to damage it might maybe notice that it wasn't interested that people were literally snorkeling, their own sharks are everywhere.

I mean, right next to you, but they never bothered you. So we have subjective biases because of incomplete information, labeling things good or bad. Because I always say that whatever you experience, you can make a heaven out of a hell or a hell of a heaven, I specialize. And I teach a program called the break to experience and we're doing it times last 33 years.

And I have people come in with every imaginable thing that's happened in their life that they think is torture and trauma and tragedy and turmoil and this and that. And I have yet to find something that the mortal body can experience, that the immortal soul, the state of unconditional love can't transcend. So I just hold people accountable instead of having them run their story.

Stop the story. Don't be a victim of history. Stop the story, stop running a story about how terrible something is, stop and ask, how is it going to help me fulfill what is most meaningful to me? How is it serving me? How is it benefiting me? How is it strength to me? What is it allowing me to do that I wouldn't be able to do what is it keep me from having to do that I don't want to do ask a new set of questions, your quality of your life changes.

And don't be attached to the opposite. Whatever you condemn, it's opposite becomes a fantasy. And whatever you have is a fantasy, it's opposite becomes a nightmare. You create these by the very delusion of one side of the other. But by keeping yourself from the fantasy, you know, people have a fantasy that life's supposed to be always peaceful and kind.

There is no such thing as a human being. That's always peaceful and kind, there is no such thing. I'm not a kind person, I'm not a cruel person, I'm not nice, I'm not mean, I have moments when I'm nice when you support my values. And I'm moments when I can be a tiger. When you challenge my values. I'm a human being, I have all parts, I don't need to get rid of half of myself to love myself, neither neither does anybody else.

Nor do you have to get rid of half the world to love the world. And then the world outside you doesn't run you because now the governance within governs your perceptions. William James said the greatest discovery of his generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their perceptions and attitudes in mind. I agree with him on that.

And we'll help one another founder of psychology said there's simultaneous contrast and sequential contrast, when you have sequential contrasts, your emotional and your reading the world around you around you, because you're seeing good without evil or evil without good in your illusion. But when you have simultaneous contrast, you see neither. And you realize there's the upside to what I thought was down, there's the down to what I think I see the balance and I'm appreciated the order that sitting there.

And it allows you to kind of feel a communion with a almost an intelligence in the universe. It was Einstein that said, it's enough for me on a daily basis to contemplate just a small portion of the magnificent pattern and tapestry in the universe. He was interested in that he wasn't into an engine anthropomorphic deities created by insecure individuals that created moral hypocrisy.

He was interested in an overarching awareness of the magnificent sitting inside the universe. And I'm a firm believer that that's accessible to any human being if they ask the right question. He is the author of 40 books published in over 29 different languages. He has produced over 60 CDs and DVD s covering subjects such as development in relationships, wealth, education and business.

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